Andrea and Nella’s marriage breakdown and separation
The Lying Life of AdultsAndrea and Nella’s marriage breakdown and separation is a prolonged family crisis in which concealed relationships, suspicion, and the couple’s effort to shield Giovanna become entangled. The revelation that Andrea has another wife for fifteen years does not resolve what Giovanna has witnessed between Nella and Mariano; instead, the family’s secrets accumulate until separation becomes the outcome.
Background and Hidden Tensions
Before the rupture is openly acknowledged, Giovanna notices an unusual intensity between Nella and Mariano at a gathering. Nella is withdrawn and gives Mariano little response, while he watches her closely and speaks to her in a low, unusually tender manner. When he persuades Nella to let Giovanna stay overnight with Angela, the narrator senses that their negotiation carries a meaning the other children do not understand.
Later, in the dark, Giovanna recalls seeing Nella’s ankle between Mariano’s under the table. She weighs whether to tell Vittoria, who had urged her to look carefully at her parents, but decides against it: she fears Vittoria would turn the observation into an accusation and use her own vocabulary to condemn Nella. The moment therefore remains a private suspicion rather than an established account of Nella and Mariano’s relationship.
The family’s tensions sit within a social circle already marked by the friendship between Andrea and Mariano. They had known each other since university and argued frequently about politics and other intellectual subjects; Mariano’s complaints about enemies and his use of dialect were part of the children’s familiar view of the adults. That longstanding friendship makes the later break between the men inseparable, in Giovanna’s understanding, from the possibility that their wives’ lives have also become implicated in the conflict.
Exposure and Conflict
After Costanza visits, she and Mariano disappear from Via San Giacomo dei Capri, and Giovanna sees Angela and Ida less often. Angela tells her that Andrea and Mariano’s quarrel began with familiar discussions of politics, Marxism, economics, and history, but turned into a violent argument at Mariano’s home. Mariano ordered Andrea to leave and said he never wanted to see him again; Andrea answered with dialect insults. When Costanza tried to leave, Mariano also shouted at her, and Andrea ran after her.
The children cannot make sense of the adults’ explanations, but Giovanna suspects that the quarrel concerns sex rather than Marxism. She also fears that Vittoria may have told Andrea what Giovanna had confided about Nella and Mariano. The narrative keeps that fear distinct from certainty: Giovanna constructs a possible chain of causes, but does not know exactly what passed between the adults or what precipitated the fight.
A later confrontation makes Andrea’s relationship with Costanza explicit. Nella orders him to answer Giovanna’s question, then tells her that her father has had another wife for fifteen years. Andrea does not comply with Nella’s demand to explain himself at that moment. The revelation is a shock Nella herself seems to regret making, but Giovanna receives it as something she had nearly always known and briefly imagines that the family might accept the arrangement and return to its former routines.
Separation and Aftermath
It takes Andrea and Nella almost two years to decide to separate. During that period they share a roof only briefly at a time. Andrea vanishes for weeks without warning, leaving Giovanna afraid that he has died; she later learns that he has been living with Costanza in a house in Posillipo that Costanza’s parents had given her. Costanza is by then permanently at odds with Mariano.
When Andrea returns, he is affectionate and courteous and appears to want reconciliation with Nella and Giovanna. The respite does not last: after a few days, the parents resume arguing about everything. Their conflict coexists with one point of agreement, reached in the interests of Giovanna’s welfare: she must not see Vittoria again. Giovanna does not resist the decision and says she shares it, while noting that Vittoria has vanished from contact since the family crisis began.
Narrative Significance
The separation is presented through a child’s partial knowledge rather than as a cleanly explained adult decision. Giovanna hears fragments, observes glances and gestures, and tries to connect the adults’ actions; her suspicions about Nella and Mariano remain unresolved, while Andrea’s relationship with Costanza is eventually named directly. The contrast matters: the marriage’s collapse becomes legible to Giovanna through accumulated clues, but the adults’ motives and the full history of their relationships are not all disclosed at once.
The crisis also reorganizes a wider circle of family and friendship. Andrea and Mariano’s friendship ends in a household confrontation; Costanza’s relationship with Mariano is damaged; Giovanna’s contact with Angela and Ida diminishes; and the parents’ shared prohibition on seeing Vittoria imposes a new boundary on their daughter. Separation is thus not merely a change in the parents’ living arrangements: it alters the network of loyalties and access through which Giovanna has understood her family.
